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Saturday, 6 July 2024

Book sales, Bucket Lists, Bunnies and unicorns

 It's been another year so it's probably time for the obligatory 'girl on a bridge' shot. I took the first of these pictures on the same bridge back in 2021 (A Bridge Too Far - 4 July 2021)  and have kept it up on a semi-regular basis ever since, although the bridges sometimes change almost as often as the hairstyle.

(Also, who am I kidding with the 'girl' bit. I never got to experience being a girl, except in the confines of my own head, as Susie arrived - after a lot of missteps, denials, recriminations, purges and inevitable relapses - in 2015, when I was already in my late 50s. (Susie, of course, has shaved a few years off this, though it hasn't stopped her taking advantage of my bus pass.)

Another weekend to myself at the end of June while my partner is away, which means Susie can come out to play (this side of me is not something we can discuss, let alone share). 

Unfortunately, I had already committed to helping out at behind the book sale table at the village church sale on Saturday morning, so that put paid to spending time as Susie. While the local church is LGBT friendly, they don't know about Susie, and it might have come as a bit of an eye opener. (Being able to do one of these events as Susie is still on my bucket-list of wishes, though if it ever happens it'll need some delicate prep  and sounding out in advance, along the same lines as arranging to take part in this year's Witney Pride parade with my workplace colleagues as Susie.)

However I did get a couple of hours to get ready and go out for an early walk before I had to return home  and change back into male drab to help with the sale, although I offset the drab somewhat by wearing a Pride t-shirt. (A couple of customers had Pride pins or stickers on their coats or bags, so that was nice to see.)

By the time the sale had finished and we'd packed everything up and cleared it away, followed by a quick weekend shop, it was well into mid afternoon and getting a bit late to get ready and go out again, so I spent the rest of the day indoors or pottering round in the back garden as Susie. 

Another morning walk next day, back though the nature reserve at the bottom of the village and back up along the canal, in the course of which I encountered a couple of lost and bedraggled animals.




      
The poor sad-looking bunny looked like it had been fished out of the canal and sat there to dry off in the hope it might be reclaimed, though if it had fallen off a boat it might be some time before they come back. 
I have no idea what the fluffy moomin unicorn is supposed to be but I hope it gets reunited with whoever lost it.

I had hoped to put another dent in Susie's bucket list by visiting Annie's Tea Room at the top of the canal in the afternoon, but after the warm sunshine of the day before, Sunday afternoon's weather turned out to be more typical of a British summer in that it was dull, overcast and chilly. And then the neighbours across the road decided to spend the afternoon doing up their garage door, which made leaving the house en-femme a bit problematic, so I had to put off that idea for another time when the prospect of sitting outside with a book, coffee and cake might be more attractive. 
 
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S









8 comments:

  1. Girl on a Bridge sounds more artistic than my 'middle aged trans person in a community centre' exhibition 😉

    Good to hear you got some time out and about, and maybe you'll make it to the tea room yet

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  2. The frustrations of trans life writ large. But glad you got some time to enjoy your femininity. Sue x

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    1. The frustration is more to do with the time and opportunity wasted having to change back and forth, but even so it's better than not having any time at all. Not looking forward to the long enforced hibernation over the winter months.

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  3. Beautiful photos as ever and I think 'Girl on a Bridge' is a perfectly fine name for an art installation (isn't it odd how society is perfectly happy to apply 'girl' to women of any age but not 'boy' to men of any age? In that sense, you can totally apply the moniker 'girl' to yourself - she says, fully aware she won't do the same herself).

    I can heartily recommend a tearoom as oneself - not least because people seem less judging of you having a cake, especially a caramel slice, with your tea/coffee.

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    1. That may depend on the cake, of course. But a caramel slice does sound nice. I've not had one of those in a while.

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  4. Hi Susie. Thanks for the blog-comment. The best part of which is that it led me here. Nice blog! We share many similarities (age; time of coming out; partner's attitude) and probably more. Good luck.

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  5. Thank you. Sorry to hear your partner also doesn't want to know or get involved with that other side of you. (It's a bit like only wanting to know half the person you live with, which might seem strange, but it's far better than outright rejection.)
    Hopefully, as in my case, there is some degree of accommodation that gives you your own time and space to be who you want from time to time.

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    1. Yup. I've achieved that independence and freedom which have enabled me to pursue activities with other close female friends.

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